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Post by I ♥ Blaine on Jul 13, 2010 4:38:36 GMT -5
now i'm always online looking for something to watch. This is me too I probably wach something gay-themed daily or almost daily. Makes me feel kind of strange as I am a straight girl, but yeah... There is just something so incredibly erotic with two guys together.. It's like a whole other dimension.... adding to that I find coming-out storylines really great, or storylines where the two guys really shouldn't be together (because of religion, culture etc)... IT'S SO EXCITING. I think I like the coming out storylines because I can identify with them. NOT because I have to do the same thing, but because I have never ever had a boyfriend (it sucks... and I don't get it )... so the whole "venturing into new fields" thing appeals to me...
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Post by mandagrammy on Jul 16, 2010 1:39:28 GMT -5
One big advantage to being over 60 years old and single since my divorce in the mid-70's is that I don't have to explain myself to anyone anymore, family or friends. I'm straight, but I first learned of the GLBT world thanks to my best friend in college outing herself to me. It broke my heart that she felt compelled to marry a gay man so the two of them could live a 'normal' life in this Country while keeping their true loves secret.
After that I became more interested in gay relationships and soon found that reading or watching gay love stories (men in particular) truly turned me on both mentally & physically. I'm not sure why but I suspect I love seeing two men in love for the same reason that straight men enjoy seeing two women together, except my excitement is as much emotional as sensual.
My greatest joy came in books when I first read Patricia Nell Warren's book 'The Front Runner' back in the '70's. But even that beautiful love story couldn't touch the feelings I got when I first saw Brian & Justin kiss on QAF. They were the only male couple to capture my heart so completely until I stumbled onto a couple of German soaps on YouTube and now my heart has opened even wider to invite in Christian & Olli, and Roman & Deniz. Thanks to this site, I hope to expand my horizons even further.
Why do so many straight women enjoy gay men in love.....I don't have all the psychological reasons, but who cares why? I'm just happy to know I'm not alone and think we are really lucky women.
:-*Grammy
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2010 12:57:13 GMT -5
I've never talked about this to anybody... well, just my best friend and she looked at me as if i was crazy. I don't know if it's normal or not but i love watching this kinda stuff. I've been doing it since i was a child. Imagine that! I'm 23. I used to watch gay themed movies on tv during midnight but now i'm always online looking for something to watch. It's never enough haha. When I found Gays of Daytime was like a treasure Many people talking about movies and soap operas that we love. It's amazing! I really enjoy passing by this place. You are certainly not the only one. I'm 23 and have been watching this kind of thing since I was probably 3 years old.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2010 12:57:31 GMT -5
One big advantage to being over 60 years old and single since my divorce in the mid-70's is that I don't have to explain myself to anyone anymore, family or friends. I'm straight, but I first learned of the GLBT world thanks to my best friend in college outing herself to me. It broke my heart that she felt compelled to marry a gay man so the two of them could live a 'normal' life in this Country while keeping their true loves secret. After that I became more interested in gay relationships and soon found that reading or watching gay love stories (men in particular) truly turned me on both mentally & physically. I'm not sure why but I suspect I love seeing two men in love for the same reason that straight men enjoy seeing two women together, except my excitement is as much emotional as sensual. My greatest joy came in books when I first read Patricia Nell Warren's book 'The Front Runner' back in the '70's. But even that beautiful love story couldn't touch the feelings I got when I first saw Brian & Justin kiss on QAF. They were the only male couple to capture my heart so completely until I stumbled onto a couple of German soaps on YouTube and now my heart has opened even wider to invite in Christian & Olli, and Roman & Deniz. Thanks to this site, I hope to expand my horizons even further. Why do so many straight women enjoy gay men in love.....I don't have all the psychological reasons, but who cares why? I'm just happy to know I'm not alone and think we are really lucky women. :-*Grammy You are awesome! ;D
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Post by aliceg on Jul 22, 2010 15:22:35 GMT -5
now i'm always online looking for something to watch. This is me too I probably wach something gay-themed daily or almost daily. Makes me feel kind of strange as I am a straight girl, but yeah... There is just something so incredibly erotic with two guys together.. It's like a whole other dimension.... adding to that I find coming-out storylines really great, or storylines where the two guys really shouldn't be together (because of religion, culture etc)... IT'S SO EXCITING. I think I like the coming out storylines because I can identify with them. NOT because I have to do the same thing, but because I have never ever had a boyfriend (it sucks... and I don't get it )... so the whole "venturing into new fields" thing appeals to me... Omg you just described me too. I too watch a gay-themed thing everyday. I went to South Africa recently (we didn't have internet) and I even put some Lenny and Carsten vids on my ipod. I used to watch them in the evening for a few minutes in my tent. Obsessed much?? hehe. Yeah I love these guys. I think it started when I for 14, I live in England and really got into the Todd and Karl storyline in Coronation Street. And then when Brokeback Mountain came out I really got into Jake and I used to write a lot on his IHJ forums. I just I only found this place due to Chrolli and Ivan posting the link of the site on one of vids. And the rest is history!! lol I also think it much more exciting. I like a really good come out storyline and there are so many dimensions which can be brought into it so it can change everytime. Chrolli - attitudes in boxing. Lenny and Carsten - violence in the army. Chryed - religion. They really are awesome. It is interesting to see how progressive (or not so) each country is. You would never see the sex scenes you get in Germany in England for example. But we are getting there, I really like Chyred portray as a really happy couple. Eastenders has done us proud. I haven't told anyone is RL about this 'secret.' I speak to two people on this forum through email and private message and it is a great outlet. One girl I didn't meet on here but on another site, this is great because it really does feel like a community in a way, across several websites. Totally get the venturing into new grounds thing, in a similar boat as you!!! x
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Post by chrollilover on Aug 6, 2010 21:45:47 GMT -5
Here in my country now gay marriage is a fact but i you don't see shows or soap operas with gay characters all the time, just in Botineras and that's it. That's why i'm so addicted to this place Most of the time gay characters are shown as an stereotype effeminate guy and you just don't watch. It's amazing to be able to watch gay couples doing the things that everyone does, they are not an exception, WE are not an exception. We want to see something credible. Job, house, family,love and interesting storylines that catch your attention.
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Post by haftrox1 on Aug 17, 2010 1:28:17 GMT -5
I'm an 18 y.o. girl but I've only been watching this stuff for a year now. But I watch EVERY show I can get my hands on.. I just can't get enough! First let's keep in mind I'm, like, the prudest of my friends - they try to set me up with guys and make me dress well and act all naughty at frat parties - but I'm the most hopeless romantic and want to save my first kiss for someone who will mean THAT MUCH to me... ahhh you see what all these boys have done to me? I'll describe the feeling I get when I see these couples. Who here has seen the (admittedly sap-tastic) movie Valentine's Day? If you have, you know (spoiler-y alert) the hot doc from Grey's Anatomy and yummy Bradley Cooper end up being in a relationship, which you don't realize until after you find out they're both committed to *someone* (and the 'doc' has to come out because he's a pro athlete (I'm also the most humongous sports fan so that was bonus hotness)... anyways, I'm rambling).. but basically it all pays off in the last scene when you see Brad come home to his loyal BF and how much they care about each other. I literally shed a tear. During the movie Valentine's Day. So yeah. The thing (completely aside from the absolute hotness/sexiness/yummyness of every single physical-contact scene that is an absolute PLEASURE to watch) that makes this stuff so incredibly amazing to me -- and has led to me becoming the most hopeless romantic ever -- is the coming out drama. It nearly always is caused by the guy on the other side of the relationship forcing the issue. I have watched regular soap operas longer than gay story lines in general, but gay has become my favorite because all of the passion and romance and love and emotion comes out (hehe no pun intended.. well sorta...) when the potential relationship has more on the line. These guys are worried about their reputations, relationships with loved ones, everything about their lives changes... just for love. And maybe this has totally misconstrued the conception I SHOULD be having about what love is like, but that's ok. Because somehow I honestly think it's given me a more sensible portrayal of what relationships should mean and given me a more mature perspective because of it. Also, NOBODY knows I watch this stuff. I come from a really religious Jewish background, which, while completely understanding and pretty accepting of the existence of homosexuality, still led me to become 'homophobic' ONLY in the sense that really effeminate, flamboyant gays completely turned me off and made me approach gender roles in such a new, uncomfortable way. Watching all these shows has completely changed my political opinions and my attitudes toward people I meet in real life who are gay. Of course, everyone I know is aware I am a soap opera junkie. But I only told one of my absolute best friends (and the most liberal person I know) that I even found the gay storyline on my own soap (OLTL) attractive because I was making progress on my political beliefs. I think I told her something like 'well, honestly the guy-on-guy action is really hot.' Then she suggested I watch gay porn with my husband because I'd be turned on and the prude in me shriveled up and hid in near mortification! hahahahaha
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Post by horsepenny on Aug 23, 2010 18:21:20 GMT -5
I saw QaF for the first time when I was twelve. It was so cool. I wondered why the guys in the show weren't like that in real life. I'm 16 now and a TOTAL fghag. My friends even joke that I should have been born, or was in a previous life, a gay man. Lol. I love the fact that I has made me TOTALLY open to new experiances and I've become a protector of people that need it. An not to mention... Two guys making out is hot as hell! Lol
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Post by boyswillshagboys on Sept 20, 2010 6:05:28 GMT -5
With hetero men and lesbians - it's a sex thing. They see two hot women, or Lipstick Lesbians (those for show), and they want to jump right in there and have a go (because Lipstick Lesbians also seem to be dead keen on dudes... go figure). With hetero girls and gay couplings, it seems to be less of a sex thing and more of a love thing. We are content to be voyers. We don't want to join in because, well, we know it's not their thing. We want to watch, drool, dream and cream (don't pretend you don't!!!!!!!!) We are not comparing ourselves like we do with guy/girl pairing and instead are admiring the guys with their testosterone bolstered sex-madness and relating to the traditionally feminine roles they exhibit in gay pairings. Some of it stems from our youthful longing for the 'non-threatening boys' we grew up with; for me it was guys like Michael J Fox, the two Coreys and The New Kids on the Block (swoon). These boys are not a threat to us but are still unobtainable, much like two hot guys in a gay relationship like we see on these shows. Plus, it damn hot to watch guys get their kit off and go for it!! Forbidden Love indeed
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2010 9:19:37 GMT -5
boyswillshagboys: First I would just like to say I love your screen name, secondly I'd like to say You're from Auckland? That is so cool I'm going to Auckland in a month! I'm very excited to tour NZ and go to Sydney too ;D. Thirdly I'd like to say I have never thought of it that way but it does make sense I must admit And yes to guys getting their kit off and going for it is...beyond words it is so awesome!
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Post by amoebae on Jan 31, 2011 18:26:29 GMT -5
Resurrecting this thread again just to say hi (1st post w00t!) and also, the link someone posted a couple of pages back about girlf*gs (I don't like that term, if I'm honest) describes me.
I'm attracted to m//m stories on an emotional and physical level. I like gay porn just as I like a great gay love story. I also like het love stories, but not so much het porn. When I fantasize in my own sex life 9 times out of 10 I'm a man. I don't fit into the 'traditional' FtM TG spectrum; when I look in the mirror I see a woman and that's fine, but in terms of relationships, emotional and physical, I want to be male.
I have no interest in trying to 'turn' a gay guy (and I find the idea incredibly narcissistic). What I want is to be a gay guy and be with gay men. Now, I guess that makes me paddling somewhere in the murky waters of 'genderqueer'. It also makes for a great deal of frustration because, outside of finding a bi guy who was open to my particular sensibilities, there is no way I'll ever be able to realise any of this.
So, that's what lurks behind my attraction to m/m stories, on screen or on the page. That being said, I also recognise a great deal of what the other women on this thread have said, so I could have just said, "yes to most of the above, but add in a dose of genderqueer penis envy to the mix".
*slinks back out of the thread for fear she's freaked everyone out*
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Post by sooky on Feb 14, 2011 10:45:41 GMT -5
amoebae: You're not freaking me out. I felt like that sometimes, with the exception that it's still women I fantasise about, not men – but from the perspective of a man. Which is easier in a way because butch lesbian or man doesn't make that much of a difference if you're comfortable in your body. (But makes it more difficult in the sense that they tell you "SEEE you're just jealous of the penis!" which is not really true… Argh, why they gotta make sexuality so complicated up there?) I do think it's a difficult position to be in, but… well, that's just quite a bit of tough luck… But hey, you're what you are. Being genderqueer is nothing bad. And welcome to the boards, btw. You'll have an interesting time here, probably. Aaand.. since I'm not straight I won't say anything in regards of the topic. :< (Though I can relate and think it's cool. It would be more of a wonder if straight men were watching… But I guess the topic is simply too ew for "manly macho-men" to find it attractive… No pun intended… okay maybe But it makes the world a gay-friendlier place with the straight girls who watch. Now if I could only get those machos to realise that gay love stories are just as good as straight love stories and that lesbian porn is crap in terms of realisticness…) Sorry for the slight off-topic. You may stone me now.
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Post by stillamcdeaner on Feb 16, 2011 11:58:40 GMT -5
amobae... you are exactly like me!... sorry just felt that i should say that... as never known someone quite like that!
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Post by Christina McQueen on Jul 3, 2011 15:44:57 GMT -5
amobae... I am so much feeling like you. I am totally comfortable being a girl and stuff but I would love to be a gay guy <3
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Post by polkadottie on Dec 10, 2011 6:17:07 GMT -5
Wow, bumping this thread...
My two cents: What seems to be another important factor is that most guys in these couples are not behaving particularly effeminate. There's nothing wrong with effeminate guys, but I think you get my point here. Most straight women prefer masculine and tender guys/men so in that sense it is RIGHT ON with these fictional couples... And this in combination with an interesting point made earlier in this thread, that women are happy to just WATCH or fantasize about watching these couples (compared to straight men seemingly wanting to participate in a lesbian scene) sums it all up I think. ;D
(Plus, I want to give a hug to amoeba, where did you go anyway?)
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Post by elsie2088 on Dec 18, 2011 7:38:14 GMT -5
I do believe you're right about the effeminacy that seems to be non existent in most of these stories. I must admit it has to be one of the main reasons why I enjoy the drama around here.I just love it when two guys express any kind of affection.
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Post by elomelo on Jan 20, 2012 4:55:27 GMT -5
I'm very lucky to have many friends as invested in gay pairings and storylines as me, so it's a common topic of discussion among us a lot of the time. I think, for me, it's a combination of many things. First of all, it's incredibly hot -- two beautiful men and then together /swoons/ Then there's the tension, stubbornness, drama and obstacles they must face -- it's interesting on TV but it's unfortunate that gay and bi men have to go through that in real life. I'm also a secret romantic so I love cheering on my favourite gay couples -- they usually have to work so hard to be together so their relationships mean a lot more to me than the average straight boy/girl couple who get together like this *snap*.
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