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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 16:10:20 GMT -5
He's had those kids and sister for years before he set his sights on Chester or "his Stephen" and he didn't stop him before. I wish Macca was around, so we could ask him about how much he was Brendan's boy during that time. I don't think he ever cared for Macca. But he did love Vinnie.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 15:50:49 GMT -5
I'm hoping Brendan will realize he needs to change before it's too late. He has two kids that need him and a sister that loves him very much.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 15:42:19 GMT -5
Besides the fact that not every child that was abused becomes an abuser, there is something wrong with Brendan on a very basic level. His brian is wired completely differently. Where he doesn't really feel remorse for what he does. He loves Ste, as much as he can love another man (or anyone for that matter). He would do anything for Ste accept the one thing he knows he should do which is leave Ste alone. That's not about his abused past, that's about him compulsive need to control his enviroment and those in it. I believe even without the abuse in his past, Brendan would still be pretty much the same person he is now, just without a built in excuse for his behavior. In other words, Brendan wasn't created he was born. His father merely added fuel to the fire, but the spark for that fire was there since the day he was born. Nothing will dim it, not his love for others or their love for him. Everything that happens to him only fuels it, and he merely tries to control it, but he barely does that or he'd leave Ste alone. But he can't because it's not about Ste or his love for him, it's about Brendan and his feeling of ownership of Ste. He'll never allow Ste to be happy if it doesn't involve him. He proved that with Noah, and he's proving it now with his involvement in the deli. I don't believe people are born evil. They're a product of their environment. Brendan learnt his behaviour from his father. He's the reason why he's so messed up. But this is just my opinion.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 14:54:11 GMT -5
Brendan beat Ste becasue he could. Yes he hates that he's gay, yes he in his twisted way loves Ste, but for Brendan everything and I do mean everything is about control. His need to maintain control over the people in his life is pathological. And to maintain it he will, lie, cheat, (as we have seen with Danny), even kill to maintain that control. I mean come on the man arranged for his sister to get mugged. That had nothing to do with his sexuality. Brendan was violent towards Ste and used his sexuality as an excuse for that violence. Once it was out in the open that he was gay and cared for Ste, he was still violent towards Ste. The excuse of his sexuality was gone. He had no "reason" to hit Ste, and yet he found reasons to hurt him. Even now after all this time apart he wants control over Ste to keep him close. He sees Ste as his, like any other thing he owns and he will do anything to maintain contorl. It doesn't matter to him that Ste is stronger, happier and healthier without him. It doesn't matter that he knows it is only a matter of time before his violent nature rears its ugly head again and he hurts Ste. It doesn't matter to him that one day his violence could possibly kill Ste as he might in a fit of rage not be able to control himself and he goes too far. Brendan hasn't changed not because he doesn't want to, but because he can't. Ste's abusive behavior was him following a cycle of violence, but deep down he was always a good guy, he was just hurt, confused and completely lost. He needed guidence and help and he got both which is why he changed. Brendan is different. As someone said before its in Brendan's nature. He can't change. He believed what he told Ste in that moment about changing. He wanted to believe it, he was trying to convince himself of it as much as Ste. But once threatened his true nature came out. It will always come out. Brendan is a shark and while a shark is a beautiful and fascinating animal to look at (at a distance) the simple fact remains that a shark can only ever be a shark. Brendan was abused by his father. I believe that's the reason he's violent. It's a behaviour he learnt from him. That's why i want him to get help.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 14:03:51 GMT -5
It wasn't only denial of his sexuality that made him use Ste as his personal punching bag. He still best Ste I think he beat Ste because he could't accept he was gay. The only way he could deal with it was by being in control.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 13:29:05 GMT -5
I haven't seen any change at all, either. I really would love to see this change that has supposedly happened onscreen about Brendan. If you watch early clips of Brendan you'll see he's very different now. He's still s psycho, but he's learning to accept his sexuality.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 13:27:40 GMT -5
In my opinion Brendan has changed a lot thanks to Ste influence. He's learning to control his temper and has embraced his sexuality. They're small steps, but it's progress. He hasn't changed at all, nor has he "embraced his sexuality". He still hates being gay; he's just not in a relationship right now so he doesn't really bring it up anymore. Ste gave him a million and one opportunities to change, and he never did. Counselling isn't going to do a thing; not only would it be out-of-character for Brendan to even consider therapy, counselling doesn't work for everybody. It works for people who want to change, and also for people who are emotionally traumatized or unfulfilled. Brendan, on the other hand, as it has been said many times before, is a psychopath. Those people don't change. They have a chemical imbalance in their brain which causes them to feel no remorse for their actions, nor do they feel anything is wrong with them. They're also pathological liars and manipulators. Last year, when Brendan wanted Ste back, he told him he would change ( promised him), then when Declan came into town, he was kneeing him in the gut for looking out for his kid. Typical psychotic behavior. Brendan's "love" for Ste isn't like normal, everyday, stable person love; it's obsession. He meant it when he said he wanted to change. But then his wife threatened to take his kids away if he didn't stop seeing Ste. I think he would at least try to change for Ste.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 8:57:34 GMT -5
Hasn't he already had the tragedy of his own son not wanting to be around him because of what he did to Ste? Declan wanted to live with him. It was Brendan who pushed him away because he knows he's a bad guy. There's a Brendan spoiler in Inside Soap. It says " a tragedy for Brendan". Something happens to one of his kids maybe?
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 7:37:52 GMT -5
I think something has to happen for Brendan to realize he needs to change. Like a tragedy maybe?
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 5:25:38 GMT -5
I was thinking counselling. I can't see Brendan changing, ever. He likes to be in control and be the one that has all the power. After all he has been through and even when he fell in love with Ste, he never changed one bit... (And the character would be boring and ruined if he wasn't a psychopath anymore.) In my opinion Brendan has changed a lot thanks to Ste influence. He's learning to control his temper and has embraced his sexuality. They're small steps, but it's progress.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 5:23:33 GMT -5
I think actors should be able to play any role. But i understand PJ concerns.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 4:42:14 GMT -5
I think Brendan can change. He just needs some help. He doesn't really know how to be in a loving relationship. Help? From who? I was thinking counselling.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 4:30:09 GMT -5
Everyone forgets that Ste was once a violent abuser. If he can change then so can Brendan. He just needs some help. At the moment he has no support. Everyone is telling him that he'll never change. Yeah, but Ste was just a messed up kid who grew up in a violent home. He wasn't a psychopath. Also, Ste was abusive to Amy when he was in his teens. Your core personality develops from when you're 8 until you're 25, so he had plenty of time to change. Brendan, on the other hand, is in his 30s; way past a possible face-heel-turn in the future. Brendan is not just a bad boy and I'm sick of people acting like he is. He's a violent, twisted, manipulative psycho. It makes for great drama, but Brendan is not and never will be a good person. Agreed, but he can still change if he gets help. He'll always be bad, but he can learn how to be in a loving relationship.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 3:49:54 GMT -5
PJ's interview is up on digitalspy and he says for Stendan fans not to worry! However, I didn't like him saying that he was worried playing a gay character would typecast you and suggested that this was a general thought in the business ( has he been talking to Danny Miller)? I don't believe playing a gay character ruins your career anymore. It was true about 30-40 years ago but not now. The fact that even crossed his mind is a bit worrying. Agreed! Look at Brendan. He's a great character. He just happens to be gay. It doesn't define him.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 2:29:52 GMT -5
Thanks for posting the interview. I thought the interview is really well-done. Love PJ. I particularly like this question and the answer PJ gave: Why has Ste caught Doug's eye above anyone else in the village?"I think it goes back to the fact that there are so many similarities between Ste and Doug. They both have a backstory with Brendan, they're both at the point where they want to turn their lives around, and they've been in close proximity - they've spent loads and loads of time together over the past few months. They hope that they can improve their lives and be happier than they were over the past year. "There are also going to be moments where you find out what Doug's past is really like. Just because it hasn't been mentioned on the show before, Doug has had a whole lifetime - so there are moments that will be explained and discussed. "I was recently quoted as saying that this story isn't a gay storyline, but I don't think I meant that in the way that it's come across. It is a gay storyline and I'm not shying away from that. What I meant is that it's a relationship that anyone can tap into and it shouldn't just be disregarded because of its focus on sexuality and homosexuality. I think when you get down to the bare bones, it's just a love story, really." I think Doug and Ste will be happy together until Brendan finds out. He'll try his best to break them up and get his ex back.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 1:57:17 GMT -5
I am liking the storyline so far. And it's great to see that alot of people start their relationship when they are friends with each other. And they are like the underdogs together, seeking ways to live their lives successfully. They have the drive together and they complement each other well. This is why I love Stug. They no longer try to outshine or outdo each other, but stay supportive of each other, which is something very important in all relationships. So very true! Ste needs a friend more than a lover at this point (imo) but it is nice that it seems he will be getting both. I do worry it will ruin their friendship if their relationship doesn't work out.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 1:52:11 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure Brendan's psychical abuse knows no prejudice. Think about how he is with the people who work for him. He threatens and is a menace, but I think the only beatings we've seen have been with men he has slept with. The show early on classified this, along with Danny's murder, as examples of how hot and loving Brendan is. I think Brendan can change. He just needs some help. He doesn't really know how to be in a loving relationship.
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Post by vanessa on May 1, 2012 1:42:13 GMT -5
Everyone forgets that Ste was once a violent abuser. If he can change then so can Brendan. He just needs some help. At the moment he has no support. Everyone is telling him that he'll never change.
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Post by vanessa on Apr 30, 2012 12:45:38 GMT -5
Omg! I think you may be right! But Walker will find out about Ste sooner or later. I'm dreading it!
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Post by vanessa on Apr 30, 2012 12:36:51 GMT -5
I think Walker would hurt poor Joel if he thought he was with Brendan!
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Post by vanessa on Apr 30, 2012 12:25:35 GMT -5
Here's an interview of Neil and Emmett at the British Soap Awards. t.co/LZU5VU2
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Post by vanessa on Apr 30, 2012 11:48:44 GMT -5
Yay, for proper casting for once. Neil Newbon has a nice voice and looks like he can actually act. In fact he's actually pretty good, finally they chose someone for talent and not a pretty face. Though I admit he's very nice to look at. But he looks like he will actually hold his own. I bet Walker is a dodgy mate from Brendan's past. A proper villain for Brendan to square off with like Danny or Warren. I wonder if he knows about Brendan being gay like Danny did and just didn't care. Or he will find out like Warren did and still not care. Though I see him like both Danny and Warren using Ste as Brendan's weakness. I think he knows he's gay and will use it against him. He might think that Joel is his lover!
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Post by vanessa on Apr 30, 2012 11:43:33 GMT -5
Stendan were mentioned on Kieron and Bronagh radio show. It looks like they'll both be in this year Later show. I think they'll both be involved in Walker storyline. ;D
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Post by vanessa on Apr 30, 2012 11:33:15 GMT -5
i wonder if things would be different if Brendan and Ste had a chance to sit down and talk. A lot of their problems come form lack of communication.
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Post by vanessa on Apr 30, 2012 11:30:45 GMT -5
I think Walker is one of Brendan dodgy mates from Ireland. He's an unwelcome visitor. That means he's very dangerous indeed!
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